Dear Calvary-St. George’s
Is it me or does it feel like May 47th? I have spoken with many of you and the consistent experience at this time is that the days seem to blend together. In the midst of quarantine, it is hard to find a rhythm to life. A Christian practice that I have found helpful during this time is the implementation of A Rule of Life. The idea of A Rule of Life developed in Christian monastic communities, the best-known of which is that of Saint Benedict, dating from the 6th century. Many people mistakenly see a Rule as a set of commands that restrict or deny life. They see A Rule of Life as a ladder to flex their pious muscles and improve their personal holiness in order to please God. That type of Rule is unhelpful and never lasts. Instead a Rule of Life should serve as a framework for freedom. Rooted in scripture, it should point us to Christ and enable us to live out our various vocations (husband, mother, teacher, devotion group leader, employee) with intention and for the sake of our neighbor (spouse, children, student, fellow parishioner, employer).
In the opening days of the quarantine, between church and family, I almost ran myself ragged. However, over the last month I have tried to implement a Rule of Life in order to bring some semblance of sanity and routine into this new life. The Rule revolves around the truth that Christ is at the center of everything: in him we live and move and have our being (Acts 17:28). I am not implementing the Rule to make Jesus happy, but so that he might more freely work through me and sustain me. Then I divide the day into four essential categories:
Worship
I try to read some scripture daily and say my prayers. Sometimes they are really short, such as “Good Lord Deliver Us.” Other times I dig into the Book of Common Prayer and will walk through the Great Litany or say Morning Prayer with Ben on FaceBook.
Work
This is a given, but I can’t give 80 hours to it, and neither should you. A lot of people who still have their jobs are finding themselves being worked to the nub. This in the end is a recipe for not only burnout, but idolatry. There is only one savior and you are not it. As New Yorkers, we all understand deadlines, but sometimes it is good to walk away and save it for tomorrow.
God Lord Deliver Us
Relationship
Relationship: I take some time to check in with the ones I love, especially when work is overbearing. I have a cup of coffee with Mel and go for walks with my kids. Many of you, like me, are zoomed out so it doesn’t have to be a zoom cocktail or themed hang. It can be just a quick call to maintain a relationship and say I love you (Stevie Wonder).
“I just called to say I love you
I just called to say how much I care
I just called to say I love you
And I mean it from the bottom of my heart”
Rest
This is so much more than laying on the couch and watching T.V. until 2 a.m. In fact that is not rest at all. Rest involves maybe breaking up the Netflix series I am ploughing through (currently it is Life After Death) and going to bed at a reasonable hour. I have been exercising to clear my head. I try to have one meal with my family and find the joy in cleaning the kitchen.
I once heard it said that a Rule is like two things: a banister railing and a sign post. It provides support and stability as we make our way through the tricky parts of the highs and lows of life while at the same time pointing us away from ourselves so that we might fixate on the One who is actually upholding us through the journey. It is my hope that a Rule of Life will also function as a pair of lenses: bringing perspective and clarity during this confusing time and making the most of this great gift called life that God has given us. Even if it is confined to the walls of our apartment.
God Bless you all.
Pax,
The Reverend Jacob A. Smith
During this time, you can tune into our livestream events via calvarystgeorges.org. I also encourage everyone to join us on our Zoom conference calls from Monday to Friday at 6 p.m. If you need pastoral care, please call the church office on 646-723-4178 or email us at info@calstg.org.